Conversations with Myself

Hey aunts out there what is our role?.

I hope you have a better role than mine because my role is simple.  I spoil my nephews and my nieces and I break their mother’s rules.  Its not something their parents would like but my excuse is “its aunt’s weakness”.  Those kiddos have me wrapped right around their small fingers.  Its impossible to say NO to them.

Lets keep it light this Friday and talk about why it is important for me to spend very little time with my nephews  Why it might be possible that I can turn them into irresponsible and plain unmanageable citizens.

1. Having no financial obligations raising my nephews and nieces it is so natural that I spoil them. I allow them to order as much pizza and cupcakes as their little tummies can handle. Forget about child obesity, its school holidays and I know their moms are health freaks. But they must never find out.
2. I allow them to sleep way past 10pm. Once you hear the burst of deep loud hearty laughter between cousins, you will never ever want to cut it short or intrude.
3. I am open in talking about boys and girls to the older nephew and niece. Basically I am a  friend/aunt/mom. I am the best ever.
4. I am the one to tell them about family jokes. They like to hear about how were their parents when growing up. I have all of their dads and moms files. Ha!
5. I let them chill out all day. No structured home chores. Its school holidays, all they do is play, play, play.  They don’t like home chores and aunts don’t do anything to make nephews and nieces unhappy.  I told you I spoil them.  That’s why they cant spend a month with me.  That applies to most aunts, we are unfit to raise nephews and nieces.
6. I pay for everything. Which makes me to be much cooler. I even pay for R10 airtime.  I know they have pocket money but I just pay. Ha!.
7. What is more fun is that I can be a mom too. I can say no to playing with electronic devices.  I tell them if they are tired to play with other toys they can read books or sleep. And all creatures in the house will obey. Ha!
8. I buy them funny toys, the once that makes them happy. The one that irritates moms. Like those squeaking sleepers complete with bright lights. Every step they make, the shoe makes sounds and light up. The shoes where a hit to the kiddos not their moms of course. Ha.
9. They know I make the best crepes, mangwenya (fat cakes). When I visit at home, I make sure all my nieces and nephews come too. All eight of them (including Muli) come and hang in the kitchen. They eat the goodies warm. I don’t even mind giving each a spoon to scoop nutella if we making nutella crepes. People, only cool aunts can stand this kind of chaos.
10. The best thing ever is I get to figure out as to how many kids I want to have.  Believe me after spending a week with 8 kids (between ages 1 and 19 years) you start to understand exactly what it takes to raise a child. I also don’t get too surprised about kids milestones because I always have someone to compare to, someone who has passed the stage already.  Those are packs of being an aunt.

There is something special about being an aunt.  Being an aunt is a role that just happens. You just are one, by virtue of being born into a certain family.  If you are aunt be the best  one.  They grow up way too fast.

Take care,
Nez

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